Every three-month-old is totally honest and nonjudgmental about their feelings. As we grow up, we start to lie to ourselves about our feelings. We try to deny what’s actually happening and make ourselves feel what we “should” be feeling. That’s an adolescent trap, and most of us fall into it.
It’s easy to escape the trap by regressing to babyhood. That way lies our modern cult of “authenticity,” and it is yet another trap. Revolting against maturation doesn’t help. We have to find a way to be honest and face what’s really happening, but there’s more to adulthood than blabbing whatever you’re feeling.
Why is that? Because your feelings are not trustworthy. Feelings do not arise from some magically unsullied place within us. Just like we can say something we have no right to say or think something that’s totally wrong, we can be angry without just cause, hugely and self-indulgently sad about trivialities, jealous of something to which we have no right, detached and unfeeling about someone that we owe better than that.
“Trust your feelings” worked out ok for Luke Skywalker (except for that bit where he kissed his sister), but we ain’t fictional characters. Our feelings are as fallible as the rest of us.
So honesty is important, but it’s just the beginning. Then we discriminate: is this legitimate? How we proceed from there depends on the answer to that question. If the feeling is based on misbeliefs, magical thinking, poor boundaries, etc. — in other words, on my own toxic habits of mind — then I need prayer, therapy, exercise, maybe all of the above. On the other hand, if I’m having a sane reaction to an insane world, more therapy isn’t the answer; that’s not where the problem is.
Discernment matters. It’s what keeps you from going to war with society when the problem is inside you, and it’s what keeps you from anesthetizing yourself with more therapy when you’re being called to change the world.
Full Contact Christianity 
Just give me a sec … I’ll find some way to wiggle out of this.